Superwoman is real: How to squash negative thoughts and find your brilliance

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Are you a victim of stinky thinking? Stinky thinking is a phrase that I’ve heard Lisa Nichols use before and it resonates with me because negative thoughts have the power to grow like the smell of rotten food in your trash can.

Think about your clean house. You’re in the kitchen and the chicken smells a little funky so you throw it away instead of cooking it. The rest of the house is still clean and still smells great. That night you go to bed without taking out the trash. When you wake up the next morning the entire kitchen smells funky. Maybe the dining room or living room too because you let the rotten chicken sit in the trash can overnight.

That is how negative thoughts work. You let them sit in your mind. You think them, know that they smell funky (or may not even pay enough attention to know that they are rotten thoughts) and walk away from them without taking the trash out. By taking the trash out I mean transforming those negative thoughts into positive thoughts, bathed in self-love.

Taking out the garbage is simple, but not easy. Let’s talk about ways to start transforming your thoughts, allowing you to step into the brilliance hiding under the rotten chicken.

Lady holding a bag of garbage

Mindfulness

Are you even aware of your mean inner voice? What is that voice saying to you? Are your negative thoughts telling you that you’re not good enough? That you don’t have what it takes to go after your dreams and create a life that you love?

Is your mind telling you to be jealous of other people because you could never have what they do? Or do you look in the mirror and find all the flaws and reasons that your face or body isn’t perfect?

To change, you have to be aware of what’s happening and the thoughts in your head. One way to do that is to practice mindfulness as much as possible.

You may be wondering what the heck being mindful actually means. It means being present in the moment. It means not dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Practicing mindfulness is helpful in becoming aware of the thoughts you are having whether they be negative or positive.

Here are some tips to help you get started with mindfulness.

Getting started

Designate a time each day to intentionally practice. You may also practice throughout the day at other moments, but start with a small 15 minute window each day. Set aside the time and say to yourself: “I AM practicing mindfulness at this time”.

When you start, if you need to say the answers to the questions out-loud to stay focused, do it.
To be good at something, you have to be bad first. To be great at something you have to be good first. To have any of those things, you have to start. Practice will make this process easier.

Look around you. What do you see? Describe what you see in detail. Pay attention to what is in front of you.

Take a deep breath.

    • What do you smell? Notice what you’re noticing. Does it smell good? Does it smell bad? Is there a smell?
    • Open your ears. What do you hear? What sounds are flooding your senses right now? Let go of any judgement of the sounds, just notice that they are there and what they are.
    • Is there anything to taste? Are you practicing mindfulness during a meal? Enjoying a dessert? Maybe you’re chewing some gum or have a mint in your mouth? What do you taste, or not taste right now?
      Move on to your sense of touch. What do you feel? The air on your skin? The clothes touching your skin? The ground under your feet? The pressure of the chair your sitting in? Whatever it is that you feel touching you or that you are touching, become aware of it and just notice it.
    • What are you thinking? Are your thoughts straying away from the moment? Are you focused on what’s happening right in front of you or are you thinking about your to do list, or the way your clothes don’t fit the way they used to, or how you could be spending the rest of your day? Gently let go of those thoughts and come back to what’s in front of you. Keep doing this for the dedicated mindfulness time.

Differentiate the facts from the truth

road sign lies vs. truth

Practicing mindfulness will bring to light the thoughts that you are thinking. Paying attention to the thoughts in your head lets you shine a light on that inner voice that isn’t serving you. Once you see the stinky thinking (negative thoughts) in the bright light, transform those thoughts. You can replace the lies with the truth.

There is a difference between facts and truth. The universe is an abundant place, you are not an accident and you can never be more deserving of a life that is in alignment with your purpose and your passions. The facts may be that there is only $80 in your checking account or that you have cancer or you haven’t yet learned the skills you need to be an extraordinary artist.

That doesn’t mean that there isn’t a truth bigger than those facts. You can get to the truth by shifting our thoughts.

First, what is the thought you are thinking?

Examples of the negative thoughts may be: I’m ugly. Nobody loves me. There’s no reason for anyone to like me. I don’t have any friends. I’ll never figure this out.

The list could go on and on. But you’ve been paying attention to your thoughts so write down the negative thoughts as they come up.

Now ask yourself questions to challenge the thought.

    • Is this thought true?
    • What evidence do I have that this is true?
    • What evidence do I have against this belief?
    • What else might be true?
    • What is another way you could look at the situation?
    • What thoughts do you have that contradict the negative thought?

By getting curious, you start to raise questions in your own mind about the validity of negative thoughts. As you do you will begin seeing more positive thoughts emerge.

Affirmations

Take those new more positive thoughts and turn them into mantras or affirmations.

Every time that negative thought comes up, interrupt it. Say “STOP!” out loud and even stomp your foot if you need to. Do whatever it takes to stop that thought dead in its tracks. Think about the positive thought you came up with in the questioning exercise. Repeat it to yourself, out loud if possible, several times.

Repeat your affirmation(s) out loud to yourself even when you aren’t having negative thoughts. Create a new neuro pathway in your brain with the positive thoughts.

This process takes time but can be highly effective when implemented correctly.

Journaling

Person sitting outside journaling

Keeping a journal can also be an effective tool in transforming your thoughts. Letting your thoughts out is therapeutic by itself, but when you get intentional about journaling and incorporate gratitude into the process you begin to see transformation.

Some people have the best intentions with journaling, but find that they don’t follow through over time. If this is you, here are a few ideas that may help.

Set an alarm and journal at the same time each day.

Make a list of all the habits you currently have. Trust me, there’s a lot. Over 40% of our day runs on auto-pilot. Pick an activity that you are already doing and add journaling time to that activity.

Start small. Journaling doesn’t have to mean paragraphs of information. It could be a small notepad you carry with you. When you notice how your feeling, jot down 1-2 sentences.

Hurray! to new thought processes because a negative mind never produces a happy life. Put your attention and energy where you want it to grow and flourish. On the good and on a positive self-image.

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Cheers to the greatness we see in you!

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