What To Do If You Outgrow Your Partner

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I recently had a breakthrough while listening to one of my coaches. This breakthrough revolves what to do when we outgrow a person that is close to us, particularly our partners.

As a coach, I think it’s important to have a coach. Coaching helps a person see things objectively, hold us accountable, and help us become the best versions of ourselves. 

While this is all true, coaching doesn’t work if YOU don’t do the work. If you’re not ready to do the work and commit to the process, even when you can’t see what’s on the other side, coaching isn’t for you.

All that aside, a good coach will take you to places that you never thought possible. They help you transform into the character that you want to be in the movie of your life. If you’ve followed us for a while, you know that we talk about picking your character often.

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Picking Your Character

You GET to design the life of your character. Anything your heart can dream up. Your character gets to, in the words of my coach “live in the heart’s possibility rather than the heads probability.” Once you  design your character and have a blueprint of the life you want to live, you have the opportunity to step into that life.

Are you ready for more of that life in your current life? If so, book a session with us for a complimentary consultation to help you begin that journey and see what steps are right for you to take.

If you’re not quite sure yet, hang out with us for a while. It’s OK to lurk in the shadows checking everything out and see what’s going on. Here at ACS coaching we are constantly filling your cup with valuable, actionable information you can take and immediately apply to your life. We want you to take the next step into the version of life you want for yourself. Wherever you’re at in your journey is perfect.

But maybe you’re on a personal development journey and feel like you’re outgrowing someone close to you and leaving them behind? 

You are ready for more, ready to move on, and feel like you have to pull your partner along with you? Or you get frustrated because you want more for them and they are not interested?

Raise the roof, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I’ve been there and I know many others who have as well.

Real Talk

Here’s the deal. You are perfectly imperfect exactly as you are. The universe is always expanding and is in an upward spiral of growth. You are part of that. It’s natural for you to want to grow and expand and become bigger spiritually than you are.

Even so, your growth may not be at the same pace as someone else’s. That’s OK.

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Instead of trying to pull them along with you consider:

It’s unfair to the other person when you place an expectation of change on them. Not everyone is meant to go on the personal development journey with you. It’s unfair to expect them to change because you are changing.

A person can only meet you from their level of awareness. If you’re awareness is at a higher level than theirs, placing that expectation on them is also completely unfair. It’s going to leave both of you frustrated and unfulfilled in the relationship.

Trying to pull someone to your beliefs, your level of awareness or into a journey they are not prepared for is like telling them that they are not good enough. 

MIND BLOWN right? 

Have you ever felt like you weren’t good enough? I know I have and I KNOW I am not alone in this. I don’t ever want to do anything that would make someone else feel like they are not good enough because we are ALL perfectly imperfect. We were created that way for a purpose that is bigger than we are.

Steps to take when you feel like you are outgrowing a relationship in your life:

    • Accept that person as they are. Just because you don’t try to convince someone to be or believe the same things that you do does not mean that you agree with them or where they are at. It simply means that you are setting down expectations and letting that person be who they are and have their own beliefs. After all, how boring would the world be if we were all the same? 
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    • You can invite them to join you on a personal development journey and you may end up with an amazing support partner through the process. They may decline and the journey you embark on will be solo. Either way, it’s your journey, your life and your experience. Not theirs. They are living their own.
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    • Focus on where you are going. Your journey will move much faster if you stop trying to drag dead weight. Someone else’s growth is not your responsibility. Even if it’s someone that you love. Focusing on your journey and allowing someone else to have theirs will allow more harmony in the relationship and allow the relationship.

If you’re ready for more ways to feel better and step into your personal greatness, join the tribe! We’ll see you on the inside.

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